Thinking
What’s going y’all! My wife and I are currently in year two of reconciliation. It was last year on January 1st that my wife told me she had an affair with a guy who I thought was my friend. And a few months later she also confessed of two more affairs in the same time frame with a co-worker and a guy from instagram. Those were sexting and a kiss with the co-worker. It was physical and emotionality my "friend" who is also her cousins husband. No sex but other things no man wants their wife doing to another man. I’ve actually been through programs with affair recovery and so has she. We are trying to overcome but some days really suck. I told her she has no idea how damaging it is as a man. I know it is for women too but I can only speak for my gender. I still do love my wife. And I want reconciliation. But it’s hard whenever you hear so much in society that you are a "simp" if you take her back. Or she will loose respect for you. I don’t think that’s the case for my wife. She has completely ruined her mental by doing this foolish thing. He relationship with her cousin is tarnished forever. And she almost ended ours. She cried often from the pain she has caused and the weight of her actions. I feel bad for her sometimes. But sometimes I can’t help but look at her and just think to myself "you are so stupid" like why would you do something so dumb. That’s like a random person coming and saying " hey I’ll cut off your arm, kill your family and make you get fired from your job all by tonight. And you get no perks or anything in exchange but pain and suffering" and you saying "ok sign me up". That’s what I think about when she was at the crossroads of whether she should respond to my "friends" original message that opened the door for the affair. Why would you sing yourself up for pain and misery? Idk do yall feel that sometimes about your WW spouse? Like I said I love her but what was done was so foolish and senseless. Now she built a prison for herself. I’m hoping she can pull through. And I’m hoping I can pull through as well. But this road is tough.
12 comments posted: Thursday, July 31st, 2025
